The New Norm

I rationalize.
A lot.

Maybe to help me deal with things and accept them?

Is it just me ?

When things change in ways I don't like. I rationalize. I make excuses. Something, anything that helps me accept and embrace the change. Something to make sense out of something that cannot be explained or made to make sense.

I rationalize it to tell my brain it's the new norm. It's different than how things were "before" but if I embrace it and make it part of how things are now aka "the new norm" then somehow it's easier for me to deal with. Easier for me to stop fighting against. Fighting against the change I'm struggling with to accept.

The older I get, and hopefully along with it, the wiser I get...the more I can identify patterns within myself..I recognize more and more cycles of behavior.

One of these, that seems to be getting "worse" or more pronounced the older I get, is an offshoot of the above post on rationalizing.

And that's the fact that I am a planner. Always have been. Growing up, and even now, I make lists, lists, and more lists. Sometimes I even will do something not on a list, and then add it to the list and then cross it off the list just because it makes me feel better!

What I find as I get older is, as long as I can plan for "it," I deal with it fine...no matter how bad it is.

It's the surprises that life and the universe hurl at you, that want to send me into a full blown panic and hit the red ALARM Button.

It's those changes that I rationalize and then embrace. Maybe not right away, but eventually in most cases.